The Compass said...

The Compass said...

OMG. I have been wanting to comment and couldn't find the time. But finally, I'm making time.

Can we start out with the proverbial "Actions speak louder than words."

This chick talks out of both sides of her mouth. And the only thing you can take to the bank is what she has done in the past and what she has done and is doing in the present.

Johnny, you are such a romantic and yes, you can have romance in a relationship but it does not and will not ever work out like the movies.

Her letters about the passion and love you both shared at that time I'm sure she believed but was probably a large amount of fluff too. Lots of things can be written down but if the proof is not in the pudding, its just another great romantic letter.

There is no doubt that being around her brought back the enjoyable aspects of the connection the two of you shared. You were with her for that long before and so its understandable you would still have similar attractions to her and she to you. I can honestly say I can still be attracted to some of my own exs for their unique individual qualities. However, give me 5 minutes to think about the other crap I would have to put up with by being with that person all the time and I'm running the other way. Suddenly my thinking is cleared!

I don't believe the statement that it was all fake. What went on was real but didn't have the depth some of the words portrayed. If it had and if she had meant every single word she wrote, standing up to her parents would have been a minor hurtle in being with you totally.

A real lasting relationship doesn't survive on passion, love and romanticism. You have to find your own form of romanticism that exists in real life. Being passionate for each other all the time is a farce. Are you kidding me? Passion comes and goes with everyday schedules.

And words don't carry meaning unless there are actions to support them. When you are willing to make SIGNIFICANT life sacrifices for the love of another, then you can honestly say I love you to the ends of the earth and you're my one true love.

Romantic are the little things in the everyday you would do for your partner that you wouldn't for anyone else. Like him keeping my toes polished when I'm too pregnant to reach them! And me making sure he always has a fresh can of snuff although I despise the habit. No candlelight dinners here.

Its great that she was willing to help you when you needed it. But the motivation was strictly friendly. Can we say the chapter is closing on this one? Past time to love it for what it was and move on.

The Compass