MYTH #5: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP IS A PEACEFUL ONE

MYTH #5: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP IS A PEACEFUL ONE
  • Don't be afraid to argue because you think it's a sign of weakness or relationship breakdown. Even the healthiest couples argue. 
  • If approached properly, arguing can actually help the relationship by (a) releasing tension and (b) instilling the sense of peace and trust that comes from knowing you can release feelings without being abandoned or humiliated. 
  • Instead of worrying about how many times you argue, worry about how you argue. Here are some guidelines:
    • Don't abandon the issue and attack the worth of your partner during an argument.
    • Don't seek conflict because it's stimulating.
    • Don't pursue a take-no-prisoners approach in your arguments.
    • Don't avoid achieving emotional closure at the end of an argument.