Unhappy Holidays Again - Part 5

The total was $575. As I told her anyone knows that paying $575, I am not looking to make a profit here. Tell me where else she can live and not have to worry with a bunch of roommates, have Internet, DirecTV, Netflix, Hulu, a laptop, a printer, washing machine and dryer. And let's not forget, get to drive a nice dependable car and have insurance on the car and on top of that get to live with your boyfriend. She says she wants to marry me and spend the rest of her life with me. Sometimes finances make things like that very difficult to do. She told me that 575 was completely unfair. This was on a Sunday but she said she would pay it. I was waiting for a check or cash or however she was going to pay it. She said I would rather pay you in cash so I will get it out of the bank tomorrow after work and give it to you. I said okay great.

Monday rolls around and I don't say anything about it because I want to trust that she will do what she said she's going to do and I want to give her the opportunity to do that. I waited until we were in bed getting ready to go to sleep that evening when I finally said, "Dear, did you get the money out of the bank like you said you were going to do?" And she said that she totally forgot. She was very sorry but she just forgot. She promised that she would do it the next day that being Tuesday. I said okay great.

Tuesday she comes home and tells me she did not get the money out and she is not going to pay it. She said she's just going to move to town because it's cheaper to live there. So once again, it's those little things. She told me she would pay on Monday. She said she didn't agree but that she would pay. I made it clear that we were going to take this month by month and if I could see that she was making progress I would do my best to help her out financially. But see she doesn't get, that by telling me on Sunday that she's going to pay me Monday and then not paying me is lying. Anyway on that Tuesday, I said, "Okay, when will you be moving?" She said, "I can be out of here in under a week." I said, "That's not what I'm asking. I'm just asking when are you going to move? I would like to put a time frame on it." She said she would be out by the following Tuesday. I said okay. I told her that I would take her to work on that Tuesday and then I would come home.  She could get to her new house however she was going to get there. That was none of my business. She didn't have a vehicle and said she was just going to walk. It was no problem.

She told me that she wanted to have Thanksgiving with me and she still considered us exclusive. However, she has made no effort to see me whatsoever. Let me qualify that just a little bit. When she was gone for those four months last time, she kept calling my dad and even came to San Angelo and had lunch with my dad. I don't know about you, but I've never in my entire life had an ex-girlfriend go out of their way to stay in contact with my alcoholic father. But she did. When she came back this time that was another thing that was talked about. I asked her if she could commit to leaving my dad alone. If something were to happen and we didn't work out she promised me she would leave my dad alone. I just think that's weird and we all know the elephant in the room that she loves to have sex with older married men. Also, my dad is an active alcoholic. I have a hard enough time dealing and communicating with him without getting an ex-girlfriend in the picture.

Those of you who have read this blog for a long time have read where my dad and I have the best relationship we've had in a long time. And that was true when I wrote it. He would come out to my house almost every day in the mornings when he wasn't so drunk and we would get to talk for just 5 or 10 minutes. But I loved those times. And my dad is really the only family that I have. And Dear knows all of this. I have told her all of this. Please, I invite all of you to go back and read some of the old posts about how happy I was that I was getting five or 10 or 15 minutes a day to talk to my dad. That's more then I had gotten in years. Dear has taken that all away. She even took my dad away from me.

Remember her promising me to leave him alone if we didn't workout? On Tuesday, it'll be two weeks since she's been gone. She's been calling Dad and asking him to take her to run her errands. And then he gets drunk and comes out to my house or calls me yelling and cussing and angry that he has to haul around my girlfriend, as he puts it. And that I kicked my girlfriend out and she doesn't have a car and all of that is my fault and now he has to take her everywhere. My dad is an alcoholic and this did sound a little outlandish but I've looked at the call records and he indeed is telling the truth.

I didn't think we were broken up. I recently found out that Dear does think we're broken up. Either way isn't it weird and creepy that she will not leave my father alone? My father that she knows is an active alcoholic. My father that she knows likes her.  I can't help but think it would be the ultimate power trip for her to sleep with my dad who by the way is still married. I can't help it that she doesn't have a car. She's the one that didn't do what she said she was going to do. I gave her eight weeks. She says if she had to choose me or her counselor she would choose him. There's been no intimacy between she and I in over a month and a half. It doesn't really sound like she wanted to stay here. In fact, I know she didn't want to stay here because I know she's not dumb enough to think she can live somewhere else and have all the amenities that she had for $575 dollars a month. So that's where we are and how we got here. 

Here's the latest update. Last night I texted her. Like I said, I haven't seen her since she left and I've only talked to her I handful of times. She will tell you that that's my fault because I haven't come to town to get her, or haven't answered my phone, or whatever whatever. Here is how I feel and I so wished she would understand this. Just a few months ago when she left me and moved back in with her sister she was sexual with random guys. But let's clarify this a little bit. Usually guys are the dirty dog,s so to speak, and they go after the girl and just want to have sex with them and nothing else, right? Dear did it far differently. I'll give you one example. She went one day to pick up some business cards about 4 o'clock in the afternoon. She met a guy that works at the printing shop for the first time that day. Four hours later she went back to the printing shop since it was closed and had sex with that guy she had just met four hours before and he is married.

My point is is when she wants something she gets it. My other point is is she doesn't mind at all working to get a guy. Usually the guy works to get in the girl's pants. But she works to get in the guy's pants. Another example. She was working at Chili's for maybe a week. She gets off her shift at 11 or 12 o'clock at night and goes home to her sister's house at that time. She sits out in the car because she doesn't want to go in because she wants to have sex with one of her coworkers but she hasn't worked there long enough to flirt and do things the normal way where he would probably ask for her number or something like that. So she logs in to the Chili's corporate system where they do their scheduling and tracks down this guy's phone number. She texts him at that late hour telling him this is "Dear," you know the new girl that works at Chili's where you work. The guy does not text her back. So what does she do, she just gives up and goes inside to bed, right? Wrong. She texts him again and explains who she is asking him to meet in the park so they can talk. This is something I think a guy would do but I don't even know if a guy would be so bold to track a girl down in this fashion before getting to know her a little bit more.

But when she wants something, Dear she goes after it one hundred percent. Sure enough she meets the guy in the park at 1:30 in the morning. By the way what about the issue of transportation? That's what she says now. She wants to see me but she doesn't have anyway to get out here to see me. But with those guys she always figures it out, she borrows a car, she gets someone to take her, whatever it takes, she figures it out. Remember the point to the story? The point is if she wanted to see me, If she wanted to talk to me, If she wanted to be in my life she would be. I want to feel pursued just like those guys were. Is that so bad and wrong to want to feel pursued? Those guys were even telling her what they wanted her to wear and she would wear exactly what they requested. For me, she won't even keep herself groomed. 

Back to last nights text. I haven't heard....Part 6 Soon